Everyone starts out totally dependent on a woman. The idea that she could turn out to be your enemy is terribly frightening.
~ Lord Astor, British Philanthropist, 1993
I have always been intrigued by the art and design of the word “violence” and how it has been framed and conceptualized since human inception. Throughout my life, I witnessed men abusing frail, voiceless women due to fear, lack of intimacy, power, control, frustration, anxiety, stress, and anger turned into a spree of merciless hitting and beating where they get burned, bruised, and broken both physically and psychologically. Never did I realize that men could potentially be the ones at the receiving end to get abused by women too. It was after an encounter with a kind-hearted human being I learned about male victimization in a failed marriage and divorce, labeled as “husband assault,“ whose emotional injuries are far greater than anything that I have observed and comprehended in my profession as a gender-based violence expert. Upon digging deeper, I came across Patricia Pearson’s work on the “gentle sex,” exposing the violent behaviors and destroying the myths of innocence associated with women, which further motivated me toward this subject.
Stories of battered men are unheard of or considered rare due to the “absence of visible injury” as opposed to the emotional trauma that is overlooked. Being just one person so deeply affected by it, I felt the need to bring to you this humble space, where “you” have the complete freedom to bring to the forefront your experience(s) as “anchored truth(s) of justice and healing” in your own words + voice by texting or sharing voice memos on +1 (917) 810-3343 from your smartphones.
To be the treasurer of your unique parables, you are presented with the Wall of Wisdom as inspiring words of courage and bravery that you long to hear to keep your fire alive, to not to feel alone or trapped in this emotional war you’re fighting within you—knowing that someone is here to empathize, believe, and be the sounding board for you.
The Sunshine Pro🌼ject is dedicated to men abused by women whose resilience, dedication, and perseverance silently speak volumes yet are unacknowledged within the confines of the personal as well as in the outside world.
In my line of work, a large number of individuals have bestowed their stories upon me as tokens of profound emotional intellect that introspectively taught me patience, courage, tenacity, and endurance, coping with any and every defeat, rejection, grief, or loss, while leaning onto my introverted personality, transcending to survive this world filled with pain and sorrow with no ego or pride, learning how to resort to those deep rock bottom moments as internal quiet junctures to understand who I am and why I exist and what roles I have to play to keep my loved ones happy and at the same time balance it out by filling my own cup of happiness.
Happiness and joy, I have realized, depend on the relationship you build with yourself first and then the world around you—make that place a nurturing and loving space to live in, you’re in control, and you are entitled to beautify it based on “your” comfort.
There is love and hope that are dichotomous to grief and suffering that we can leverage to re-write the negative script that keeps playing in our minds, such as, “I am not good enough,” “I am unlucky,” “I will never get to love again,” or “I have forgotten what actually happiness feels like anymore.” These statements are not to be ignored or suppressed rather examined as guiding principles of the initial stage of self-actualization. Without a doubt, you are subconsciously on track to take a conscious leap forward to influence your mind by revisiting the greatness that’s within you, those characteristics and qualities that you’ve ignored or overshadowed by the persistent demeaning voice inside of you that emerges in all the different actions and conversations you have with others who in turn reciprocate the same untrue verbiage that you keep associating yourself with—eliminate that voice, alter “your” life’s narrative, change the way “you” look at yourself, and share the truly authentic version of “yourself” in a healthy, optimistic, and loving manner tailored to your distinct circumstances and illuminate those strengths, grit, and persistency that you have accumulated all these years so that the world around you will radiate that same positive energy and regurgitate the same dialect; trust me, you will be emotionally, spiritually, and physically emancipated.
I can’t emphasize more on that fact, and I hope you get to take away with what you need from these words I share from my own experiences and interactions with countless superheroes that have changed my life in so many instances. I hope you honor “yourself” as one too.
You risked your emotional composure and took the courage to get yourself out of the miserable state you were in, don’t let that be a small feat; celebrate that victory, and I promise, you will find love and the care you yearn for once you remove that desolated and sorrowful inner monologue from within you.
I have a higher level of empathy, and that instinctively connects me to each and every individual I get in touch with. I felt this urge to build a platform that shares the humanistic viewpoints I have gathered over many years, which I hope feeds into the catalytic change you respectfully need in your healing journeys.
Be kind, gentle with, and love yourself, and the world will be in sync with your beautiful soul.
Best,
Founder / Certified Humanistic Counselor (CPCAB)
The Sunshine Pr🌼ject